The Power of Enough- Why you don’t need more of anything
By Evelyn Chen

I used to be perpetually exhausted and I finally figured out why.

For years, I ran a race that had no finish line. Every December, I would sit down with my existential scorecard: Did I travel enough? Read enough books? Start that project? Achieve enough? The answer was always the same; no. Never enough.

Sound familiar?

This year, 2025, has been one of the hardest years I’ve experienced. My friends and I have lost people we love. We have friends who are terminally ill, fighting for each breath, just trying to make it through another day.

And suddenly, my scorecard became inconsequential.

When someone you know is counting breaths, you stop counting achievements. When you watch people fight to stay alive, you realise that being alive is the achievement. Everything else? It’s just ephemeral noise.

I’m sitting here right now, healthy, safe, in the comforts of home and I am typing these words. That’s not nothing. That’s everything.

Somewhere along the way, I gave myself permission to be second best. To fall short of my own impossible standards. To relinquish the need to compete in a race I never signed up for.

And you know what happened? I started breathing easier.

Maya Angelou said, “This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before.” She’s right. Every morning is brand new and I’ve been too busy keeping score to notice.

Real gratitude isn’t about having more, it’s about recognising what’s already in your hands. Not what you wish you had. Not what Instagram says you should have. What you actually have, right now, in this present moment of consciousness.

For me, that’s health. A home. People I love. Another year on this planet, a juxtaposition between what could have been and what is.

Is my life perfect? No. Were there adversities and friction and moments I wanted to capitulate? Absolutely. But I’m still here. I’m still standing.

I’m not setting goals this year. Instead, I’m going to live, laugh, eat, and pray. I’m going to be present. Be grateful. Be kind especially to myself.

What I didn’t achieve in 2025 can wait. And if it never gets done? That’s okay too. We’re not running out of time; we’re learning how to use it better.

So here’s to you!

You have survived another year. That alone is worth celebrating. Whatever you have achieved or didn’t achieve, whatever goals you met or missed, YOU ARE STILL HERE. You made it.

Be kind to yourself. You deserve that kindness today, tomorrow and every day that follows.

Because you? You are enough.

Trust me on this one. 😊xx

 

Words to learn

perpetually– constantly; continuing forever or for a long time without stopping. “I was perpetually exhausted from chasing impossible standards.”

existential– relating to existence or the nature of being; concerned with the purpose and meaning of life. “My existential scorecard measured my worth by my achievements.”

inconsequential– not important or significant; too small or unimportant to be worth consideration. “My worries became inconsequential when I saw what others were facing.”

ephemeral– lasting for a very short time; transitory or fleeting. “The noise of daily stress is ephemeral compared to what truly matters.”

relinquish– to voluntarily give up or let go of something; to surrender or release. “I had to relinquish my need to be perfect all the time.”

juxtaposition– the fact of two things being seen or placed close together with contrasting effect; comparison highlighting differences. “The juxtaposition between loss and gratitude makes life more precious.”

adversities– difficult or unpleasant situations; misfortunes or hardships. “Despite the adversities I faced, I kept moving forward.”

capitulate– to surrender or give up resistance; to yield or admit defeat. “There were moments I wanted to capitulate, but I didn’t.”

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The journey to accepting “enough” starts with the words we choose, for ourselves and for others. At ILTI, we walk alongside learners of all ages, levels and needs, helping them discover the vocabulary and communication skills to express gratitude, practise self-compassion and share their authentic voices with the world. Because being kind to yourself is easier when you have the words to say it.

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